tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29640480.post687612081686519393..comments2024-03-21T18:54:06.548-07:00Comments on Old Enough to Know Better: What You See Isn't Always What You Get, Or ...Steve Perryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12079658447270792228noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29640480.post-11598309920507100352007-11-08T09:18:00.000-08:002007-11-08T09:18:00.000-08:00"How can I miss you if you won't go away?"In my li..."How can I miss you if you won't go away?"<BR/><BR/>In my life I've had more trouble with people who wouldn't go away, than otherwise. Partially due to having lived in one city my whole life, I imagine.Daniel Keys Moranhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12992599044462413412noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29640480.post-34911067862655066262007-11-07T23:05:00.000-08:002007-11-07T23:05:00.000-08:00I can understand that a place and time can be tran...I can understand that a place and time can be transitional. You are in school or a job you don't play to keep, and you don't forge any real relationships, so when it come time to boogie on, there's nobody back there you'll miss, or who will miss you.<BR/><BR/>When we moved to Oregon from Louisiana, there were some folks I was fond of who weren't happy to see us go -- I was teaching a kung-fu class, I liked working at the clinic and the doctors there. <BR/><BR/>I tried to keep connected by mail and the occasional phone call -- this was before the internet and email. And it is to be expected that time and space can fade the connections, even now when email is virtually instantaneous. <BR/><BR/>I made a point when I did go back to see family to look up the old friends. <BR/><BR/>Paths diverge, and that's the way of things; still, when somebody you thought well of, and you believed thought well of you, just stops talking, you tend to ask yourself, What did I do? <BR/><BR/>Sometimes it's you, sometimes, it's them. Sorting that out might not change the situation, but it can change how you feel about things. <BR/> <BR/>If I screwed up, maybe I can make amends, or at least avoid doing it again. <BR/><BR/>If it was you? Well, fuck you and the horse you rode out on ...Steve Perryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12079658447270792228noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29640480.post-86149517833443309282007-11-07T22:09:00.000-08:002007-11-07T22:09:00.000-08:00I had a friend in college who disappeared while I ...I had a friend in college who disappeared while I was in Scotland. Only one person knew how to get in touch with him, and he was sworn to secrecy. The story is he was ditching his lousy life (including those of us who weren't so lousy, but still were part of his past). Recently I found out some of his friends think he's really in Witness Protection. I think they'd just rather believe that than think he'd really ditch us all of his own accord.<BR/><BR/>I have another friend who NOBODY knows where he is--he had a nervous breakdown and vanished a little while later. They've had "John, please contact us" up on their web site for over ten years now. They reckon he's an anonymous corpse somewhere. I remember the guy fondly.<BR/><BR/>Personally, I still want to go home someday.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29640480.post-6098874562071500632007-11-07T17:09:00.000-08:002007-11-07T17:09:00.000-08:00In two weeks, I'm leaving the town I've lived in f...In two weeks, I'm leaving the town I've lived in for the past ten years. I graduated college here, worked my first real job here, met my wife and had a child here, all in the last ten years.<BR/><BR/>I'd like to think that when I leave I'll keep in touch with those I've left behind, but I'm not so sure.<BR/><BR/>Being a college down, I had the sad pleasure of watching the dozen or so close friends from school move off one by one over the years. Very few do I regularly keep in touch with, but I'm not sure if it's them or me. For the folks that I'm still friends with now, I hope I'll stay in touch. I guess I'll find out shortly.Jordanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08341608982649448622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29640480.post-90934653387381941572007-11-07T10:02:00.000-08:002007-11-07T10:02:00.000-08:00I think it's useful for young people to move away ...I think it's useful for young people to move away from home to find out who they are. And then coming home, to find out how who they are meshes with who they used to be ...<BR/><BR/>When middle-aged people do it, you gotta think something's wrong.Daniel Keys Moranhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12992599044462413412noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29640480.post-54682820393251034672007-11-06T18:28:00.000-08:002007-11-06T18:28:00.000-08:00I don't begrudge anybody that. If somebody makes i...I don't begrudge anybody that. If somebody makes it a habit, that's different -- it implies an inability to deal with reality, and the idea that if they zip over two states, they get to be somebody new.<BR/><BR/>I know folks like that. They never learn the lesson.<BR/><BR/>I had a buddy did that with wives.<BR/>He'd pick a young woman who hadn't had much experience in the world, wow her, marry her, and when, after a few years she grew up and didn't see him as the great and powerful Oz, she'd bail. <BR/><BR/>He'd go find another one. Got harder as he got older, and eventually, he couldn't do it any more. Married five times. All of them much younger than he was. <BR/><BR/>He kicked off before he wore out the last one ...Steve Perryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12079658447270792228noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29640480.post-76241697841645765472007-11-06T16:03:00.000-08:002007-11-06T16:03:00.000-08:00I've done this myself. In fact, it's the reason I'...I've done this myself. In fact, it's the reason I'm in Seattle, not South Carolina, or why nobody up here ever hears about or meets a friend of mine visiting from S.C.<BR/><BR/>I just didn't want to keep any.<BR/><BR/>The reasons vary from person to person, some I screwed over too badly to make it up, others screwed me. Still others I just had a parting of the ways, moved far off and grew apart.<BR/><BR/>But the biggest reason? I just didn't want to be reminded of South Carolina as I remembered it. I spent most of my youth there, and part of my early adulthood. It's where I made all my mistakes, and it's certainly not too big to occasionally run into people I made those mistakes with or to.<BR/><BR/>It's not always right, but there are times in a person's life when they just reset the timer and start the game over again from the beginning. Maybe this time, armed with a little better sense.Bobbe Edmondshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14346040017021718774noreply@blogger.com